Someone change my mind

I’d like to hear the opinion from white men who read this site; why will your kids be different?

Does your wife / girlfriend not love you more because you’re white? Does she not embrace a western lifestyle?

How do you expect your hapa son to be happy when your own wife views white men as superior?

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40 thoughts on “Someone change my mind

  1. Another hapa here.

    1. You already know that white to be fathers don’t know shit about their to be children’s fates so this is a stupid post, you are obviously being a whiny bitch. Stop crying.
    2. Some white people who like Asian women also long for Asian culture… weeaboos for example.
    3. Not all Asian women are white wannabes you half Chinese fuck, don’t go looking at all Asian women the same, it just proves how western you are and not knowledgeable to generalize people.
    4. You aren’t a fuck up because you are hapa, you are a wannabe victim in today’s imperfect society.
    5. You want to be a degenerate and blame it on your racial background? You are being a failure at life and blaming it on the wrong internal problems.
    6. Shut up already, for your own good. If you cant handle life then die already, if you cant even attempt to fight your own struggles you arent befitting of life. So shut up and man up or die. If you cant die then you have to fight, and you arent fighting this battle right by being a whiny bitch. More and more hapas will appear. Stop bitching and start leading the future. Be a fucking roll model.

    • You’re a cuckold, plain and simple. Your worth was ALREADY DECIDED by your parents. LOL at pretending you can eat at the same table as a white man… looks like I touched a nerve with you. You are, and always will be, inferior to white men.

      Let’s see how you’re going to argue against it.

      How are you going to say it’s not true?

      YOUR MOTHER BELIEVED IT.

      • I don’t want to silence you I want you to use your words more positively. your blog is toxic. First of all you know very well that it is inevitable many more eurasians like us will be bred. As a result, there will be many more lost individuals walking the hard path we walked. What do you think a lost Eurasian teen with identity issues would think if he came across your blog? You would feed poison into his mind. The reality is just that, reality. It is not something to paint negatively. You need to start inspiring resilience and inner strength, not continuously preach that we are a flawed existence.

      • 3 replies.. and I can feel your emotional pain in each comment. oh yes, someone’s nerve has indeed been struck. Very happy to have your attention.

        Want proof that I am a hapa? What. you want solid proof or something? I grew up hating my father, looking down on my mother. When I was a little child in Korea I was told I was an American. Made to believe it. I moved to America at the age of 11 only to face cultural differences. I wasn’t what I was told I was supposed to be. It struck me the day a classmate asked me if I was Korean or white. I had no answer. I struggled with identity for a long time. Often contemplating suicide in high school. I went through college escaping my family and roots, swearing to become my own person. After all, I was finally free. But you are right, I would’ve never been so driven to run from my roots were it not for them in the first place to determine my fate.

        So on. I ran. I ran. I moved to Korea again. I now face more discrimination from Korean society.
        In my years running from my parents and overcoming my flawed identity, I learned many things. Everyone has insecurities. Handicaps. Things that make them imperfect in the image of society. Fat people. Foreign immigrants. No one is perfect and everyone has a different pain in life.There are things I can never change. But there are things I can. And just being able to change what I can makes me a better person . This I especially learned after my father passed away. My dreaded white father who was the symbol of my misbegotten existence- a man ignorant of his children’s destiny to the bitter end. But he knew what I was by the end. He even told me before he died. *dang, you truly are a mutt, haha what are you, American? Korean?* I am me. No more, nothing else. If people can’t understand me it‘s not my fault for being beyond modern society’s image. My dad probably would’ve never imagined that his child could walk the thin line in between separate cultures. And it is in his death that I vow to be a better man than my father. I have learned to tap into the powers of both of my personalities and more. Anyhow I really do want to sit down and have a talk with you sometime but continuing to type on a smartphone is really tedious. If you are interested to pick my brain more I can get back to you when I am at a computer.
        I am a half Koran half Caucasian who had seen both worlds, growing up in Korea as an american, moving to USA in middle school to face my Asian identity that I truly was the entire time. Having a mother that just wanted to escape 1970s Korea, and a father I respected so little. I ended up running back to Korea again, only to find out how American I had become. Yet despite being entangled in social constucts of two diverse cultures with parents who had different expectations out of me, I became who I am now. My father hardly recognized me when he saw me at the airport. My mother still does not believe I am doing the things I choose to do, and is actually impressed. I am loved, I am respected, I have those who look up to me. I am a human being who struggles against life. I choose what I want to be good at, and I excel and lead the way. That’s the difference between me and what I could’ve been: a whiny bitch about how society does not accept my uncontrollable fate since birth. I’ll come back on my computer and reply if you have anything for me. Don’t make me go tough love mode again. I only keep this site feeding into my emajl because I know your pain. That’s it.

        • You and I took the same path then.

          I am asking you to never forgive your parents and to SPEAK UP about these issues instead of trying to shout me down for saying what I feel.

          You and I took the exact same path yet you’re trying to pigeonhole me into being a fringe lunatic.

          I want to ask you why you’re so hell bent on silencing me? What good would that do?

        • Thanks for the comment. I think this will be helpful for Hapas everywhere. It’s a lonely road we walk. Did you change your last name? Do you identify as Korean now? I found it healing to just change my last name into a Chinese name, and tell people my father is Chinese.

  2. You mean they value white men more than Asian men, not dislike.
    Have you spent enough time in any east Asian countries? If so which ones?
    All women like men with social value, social value is the most desirable trait. Therefore women’s taste in men tends to be due to culture and social values. This is why women from countries where the average citizen views westerners as higher on the pecking order prefer the stereotypical westerner, the white man. Then there are white fever women just like yellow fever men. That’s just fetish for the exotic.
    Countries like Korea have plenty of women that would never date outside their own race. Go to China and there are women lining up for white men to marry the stereotypical white man who is richer than average Chinese.
    As for Asian Americans that’s obvious. You see white people passive aggressively being portrayed as the most desirable on social media and whites are the majority. Since black people complain a lot about that you can research it on your own, but the result is teenage Asian Americans fantasizing about Brad Pitt and not jet li, etc. You get the idea.
    The reasons why many Asian women value white men is not racial at the root, it can manifest as racial prejudice but the true reasons lie in that in the modern world white men are culturally and socially portrayed as having all the qualities women desire in men. Nothing more. I’ve met met Asians who grew up with little exposure to western media, and they think white people look goofy and bizarre.
    I think you need to explore the world a bit more.

      • Yes, and yes. To both.

        More so that the woman who birthed me was not an honest, caring, unbiased woman. She was a woman who put more value on a man because of his race.

        I will NOT shut down this blog, not now, not ever.

  3. I don’t want to silence you I want you to use your words more positively. your blog is toxic. First of all you know very well that it is inevitable many more eurasians like us will be bred. As a result, there will be many more lost individuals walking the hard path we walked. What do you think a lost Eurasian teen with identity issues would think if he came across your blog? You would feed poison into his mind. The reality is just that, reality. It is not something to paint negatively. You need to start inspiring resilience and inner strength, not continuously preach that we are a flawed existence.

    • It could help the teen feel less lonely. Plenty of eurasians have no clue others living in the same dynamics feel the way they do. Maybe if he had found a site like this as a teen he would have already let out his frustration and “moved on”. This blog is indeed quite toxic but it allows him and other people to vent. I’m not saying positivity doesn’t matter, but it doesn’t change the reality of racial relations. Better this, than him putting an end to his life. I’m glad he’s still among us.

  4. I think if you married a Hong Kong women who was a former Asian man hater and her dad treated you like his own flesh and blood son, that would solve all your problems.

  5. Please excuse my grammar. As a half Asian guy from a Asian dad x white mom. Couple month ago i went to search on google and type “half Asian guy”. There is many neutral view about your post. Let me tell you about my dad and uncle. They are half brother but different father. Same mother which is my Vietnamese grandmother. My uncle and father don’t know their dad to be honest. It was during the viet nam war. My uncle is a half Asian half white, his father is white. Up to this day he has kids with a Asian women. All 3 of the kid have brown hair, and eye too. They don’t have a problem with their race.

    • I look mostly Asian and have the Korean eyes from my grandfather. My uncle mostly look white, has Asian feature. In the dating world being a half Asian have problems. No one want to date them. I live in the Midwest South Dakota. There aren’t many Asian over here. I see a few Asian every other week. From what I seen over here. 9-30 white guy Asian girl couple live in Sioux Falls, SD. I do admit that I don’t like see wmxaf couple.

      • Also there is a Vietnamese community. Btw there are 3-7 wmxaf family. I know some of them. I has been to their house couple time. They are very nice people. Don’t think about race a lot. That what people told me,

  6. “I’d like to hear the opinion from white men who read this site; why will your kids be different?”

    I’m a white man married to an Asian woman. We have no children, and never will (married now over 30 years ago so I can say this with comfidence). We went into this marriage with the knowledge that neither of us wanted kids (a fairly unsual stance for a married couple 32 years ago when we tied the knot). There were multiple reasons for making this decision — time, money, a pessimistic outlook on the world in general, heck, call it selfishness if you will) — but one of these reasons was we feared our child would face discrimination (either from the Asian nation we both still live in, or if we ever decided to move back to the US, which we didn’t). We thought that having a half-Asian child would be a tremendous psychological burden on the child and on us as potential parents. So we never had kids.

    Sadly, your blog confirms the worst of my fears. And makes me grateful that we didn’t have kids. I think your blog is a little extreme (I know some WMAF happa males that at least seem happy and well adjuste with life) but you make a lot of important points that need to be heard and considered carefully by any WMAF couple.

    I will say my wife and I still love each other very much and have had a peaceful, calm, and wonderful relationship for 32 years without kids. We seem to be one of the happiest couples I know, WMAF or otherwise. I see lots of happy parents who love their kids too, but having kids is always a gamble, always stressful and expensive, always difficult — and there is even more stress in the mix when it’s interracial. I’m not saying it’s impossible to turn out OK, but a lot of people go into these relationships with rose-tinted glasses and your blog shows the trainwrecks that can develop.

    Like I said, you are an important voice but I think it doesn’t have to be as horrific as you often paint it. I hope you find peace in your life. I for one am not going to deny that you and others in your position have been dealt a very difficult hand in life, and I admire your courage and honesty in the way you can express this to yourself and the world.

  7. Eurasian Writer,
    I’m a white male with a painful biological attraction to asian women. Your writing touches something deep in me. The nihilism you often allude to touches something that I feel also. It’s in the nebula of the wmaw dynamic. Something fatal about it. Something uncontrollable. I know our life experiences have been so different and contrast starkly, yet I feel bonded to you.

  8. A haffu here and I can say that you really are a whiny little bitch. I grew up with a white mother and a japanese-korean father and I will admit to you that being mixed is a bitch sometimes. My dad went though hell growing up in Japan thanks to the stima against Koreans in many areas. He met my mom through friends and they have been together for 30 years now. My parents were great growing up and they made sure that my siblings and I grew up in an environment that taught us about both of their cultures.
    I won’t lie and say that I didn’t face discrimination. When I was in Japan in middle school there were assholes that gave me a hard time and sometimes it got to me pretty bad. I ended up finding different clubs to participate in and I made some friends who accepted me and just ignored the assholes. After I graduated my family moved to Canada for my mom’s job so I could attend highschool there. I don’t think I would be where I am today if it wasn’t for the way they raised me.

  9. White male nationalist here. This is exactly why we have said that racial mixing is so destructive. I applaud you for seeing the correct and yet politically incorrect truth on these issues although it seems to learn them hard way. When I traveled abroad to live many years ago I had a Korean girlfriend and I nearly made the worst mistake in my life in marrying her. It was fortunate that we came back to the United States before we went our separate ways. It terrifies me to think that my son, if I had one with her, would hate me so much. It seems not only I but my son has a dodged a major bullet.

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