- I was crazy growing up. Once again, revisit the early pages of this blog to see my craziness on full blast. If you don’t believe I’m hapa, then really, best of luck to what you have in store.
Looking back I’ve begun to actually realize just how crazy white male / Asian woman relationships are. I’m here to tell you exactly what goes on from the inside. I’m snitching on one of the most racist pairings on earth.
If you think about them, they border on the absurd. They are producing by the millions damaged, messed up and potentially violent children. No other pairing comes close to the amount of loaded sexual / political crap that White men / Asian women harbor.
Yes, there are crazy white / black / full Asian people. But for a group of Hapas who are pushed as being the superior ethnic group (e.g., how many times have you heard “best of both worlds”) – we seem to demonstrate a tremendous amount of crazy behavior relative to our small amounts. And more importantly, rather than demonstrating “best of both worlds” behavior, we have fallen very short of our expectations.
On Reddit, a white girl (who is familiar with the experiences of Hapas as one of her friends is a drug addicted half-Korean / half white male) posted this about her therapist in New Zealand.
Just thought I’d report an interesting conversation I had the other day with a friend who is a therapist/counsellor. She told me she started seeing more and more cases with victims of “covert incest” from biracial families. She didn’t specify the races but being in New Zealand I can safely assume she’s speaking of the Hapa population since they’re the biggest mixed-race demographic here.
I didnt even know what covert incest was until I spoke to my friend about it. I have done some searching online about it being more apparent in mixed race families but hardly anything came up. Then again covert incest is a recently discovered topic and not widely spoken about. Considering the racial fetish some people who enter these mixed relationships have – time will tell I guess?
Wikipedia describes “covert incest” as: “a style of parenting in which a parent looks to their child for the emotional support that would be normally provided by another adult.”
My take on this:
- It’s New Zealand. The vast majority of mixed race people there are either half Maori, or half FOB Asian (through their mother, obviously).
- I underwent covert incest as well. I just learned this term today.
- My mother never loved my father. Not from the beginning. As I said, Asian women use white men, but don’t love them.
My comments on this:
My mother did exactly that; covert incest to me. Not with me. No idea what she did to my brother but probably a thousand times worse as he is a thousand times more messed up than me, 32 and a virgin, and looks very Asian.
I didn’t know “covert incest” existed until about five hours ago and I can say with certainty this is exactly what happened.
In retrospect I imagine it was merely because my mother hated my father, used him for whatever reason, status, integration, citizenship, whiter babies, to show off to her sisters, so that she could feel like a real American, so she could feel “good” about herself since her husband was 6’3″ and red haired, but she used to just sit on my bed and talk shit to me about how worthless my dad was.
This went on for years. Making comments on his eating habits, how he was pathetic, how he would cover his face while he ate, eat sugar straight from the bag, and things like that. Telling me that she refused to have me spend any time with him. Later on she would ask me to come to her bedside and hug her for hours, continuing to talk the same shit. Emotional intimacy was transferred entirely from my father to my brother and to a lesser extent to me. I don’t know what happened with my brother. Again, my parents were sexless.
My possible reasoning for this is parental narcissism. The male child represents possibly the lover she wished she had, or the characteristics she wished she had, such as bigger eyes or whiter physical qualities.
Eurasian men actually are highly desired by Asian women, but failing that they used white men because they are unable to land their ideal male types. Especially among FOB types, who see white men as the key to “beautiful babies” and citizenship in a white country… hence Asian women marry the biggest losers of society with no questions asked.
As I said I don’t actually believe Asian women love white men, but merely use them. Ten years after marriage if the man is not rich or demonstrating Prince Charming qualities, the mother’s mind begins to revert back to the “what if’s” about marrying an Asian man – or better yet, a Eurasian man.
I have a ton of WMAW in my family and their behavior does not represent normative loving couple behavior, more of an extreme nagging-type dominance of woman over man. Many of the women openly insult, berate, or belittle their white boyfriends and husbands, almost in a motherly fashion; hence you see the affection transferred from the man to the child – the man was a tool. Many of these men (come to think of it, actually I think it might be all of them) are Jewish, who come from homes that are largely matriarchal. Partnerships should be equal – not skewed to either side.
I’m willing to bet that actual physical incest is skewed towards white men abusing their children, with covert incest involving Asian mothers and their male children.
We shall see. I’ve asked her to discuss this with her therapist and send this website address to her as well.