As if Hapa identity couldn’t get any weirder.
I’ll just repost the comments from /r/hapas, the largest website for half Asians, with, of course, Asian moms and white dads.
The main thread on the subject.
A thread discussing this on /r/hapas was called: “What Chinese-American women think of the male features they give their Half Asian sons. No wonder Xiuxue gave her infant blue contacts, and Elliot Rodger dyed his hair blond at age 7”
This is the real deal too, because I lived it.
In my mind being Asian was fundamentally worthless, because my mom and dad were proof of that, so I would freak out over my hair texture. You know how when your hair gets longer, and your sideburns don’t attach to the side of your head like a white person, just get really long, stringy black sideburns? That was such a source of pain for me that I almost imploded and I dropped out of school and all sorts of things.
If these are the people raising half Asian kids I feel more sorry for them than their kids because ultimately they’re going to eat at the same table they’ve been shitting on their whole life.
What’s the point of having kids – if you are really a eugenicist, and truly believe that White male genes are the bee’s knees? What kind of life is it to live ones life with the knowledge that his entire self worth is his father’s genes? What kind of Nazi experiment is this?
At this point I will just use Reddit comments from other mixed race half-Asians to describe exactly how depraved these women are – and why they are unfit in raising half Asian children – many of whom look very Asian, like myself, and long had to deal with perpetual low self esteem and self harm coming from a hateful Asian woman and a white man who tolerated her because she was his last choice.
Even worse is that several of the commenters explain how dysfunctional their relationships with Chinese women are: proving that the worst Chinese women are the ones who chase white men just for status, and everything else, from the violence, abuse, child kidnapping, are all part of her plan to use the man for her master plan of… whatever. Proving half Asian children are high risk.
And yet these idiots can’t seem to realize that when you interracially date, there are often ulterior motives, then they’re stuck with a couple of miserable kids whose mother was a sociopathic violent psycho like my mom, and these loser white guys couldn’t stack up as a real father the minute they decided to go Asian, anyways.
Kate is full of crap. I’ve had 2 long term Chinese female partners, both of whom were I was seriously involved with and had kids. I was/am absolutely considerate; when I tried to get them their favourite juice or snack, suddenly it was inadequate or their taste had changed, they would constantly nag, belittle and even argue rampantly in public no matter how much I would try to ignore them or voice my concerns about it. They’d even argue with me about buying them the wrong kind of juice etc. I’d spend and do spend a fortune on them for birthdays (nothing less than jewellery) yet often get nothing in return, not even a card, same when I would buy them gifts on behalf of my children for them on mothers day, not even a card from them on fathers day. My first partner kidnapped my oldest child and took him overseas without my knowledge or consent, he was 2 weeks short of turning one and I never saw him until after his second birthday. My second partner is so reliant on her mother and insists her idiotic mater stays with us allowing her to interfere with the raising of our sons detrimentally under the ruse of being here to help baby sit. Babysit? I come home to find my 2yr old son running around with kitchen knives and scissors under her supervision while she shakes my infant son violently to sleep. It must be normal to shake babies to sleep in China. Neither my ex nor my current partner would stand up to their parents in the cause of reason. I’ve been told by both my ex and current Chinese partner that love is silly and has no place in a relationship, that love is a luxury and intimacy is scarce. Unless you are willing to completely submit, and kowtow to a Chinese woman you will always be at odds and it is likely the relationship won’t last. They are a completely different culture to the west with different values which are their way, often completely opposed to western values. When they have money, they will laud it over you, and if you are honest with them, they won’t respect it and expect you to give them nearly all you have. The first time I was in China with my current partner she got annoyed over something trivial, very annoyed; I was annoyed it was so trivial and couldn’t wait until we got home in private. She completely abandoned me in a totally alien place with no knowledge of Mandarin or any money and didn’t even apologise even until now over 2 years later. She’s done it more than once. Both my ex and current partner are/were violent and would attack with scissors or hit me with stools, and I’m the bastard if I disarm them and they fall over as a result. Both of them have deliberately drawn blood on me, I never did on them. Be warned, beauty is skin deep, madness cuts to the bone. Chinese women come from a different culture where human empathy and compassion aren’t always necessarily the driving purpose of their interest in you.
What is notable about this find is that the child was 11 years old – ELEVEN – when she was allowed – or even forced to get eyelid surgery to make her eyes (which did not even look that Asian) more Caucasian. The idea of white male + Asian women couples is that the children look the least Asian possible – not Eurasian, but to look white.
Given that I grew up in a household where many of the Asian women altered their appearance to look more white – or women who made comments such as “I can’t stand being around so many Asians,” it is not unusual for Asian mothers to force such horrible, invasive surgery onto her own child, as well as allowing for body modification of a child.
As I know, Elliot Rodger’s parents allowed him to dye his hair as a child. So extreme is Asian self hatred that the child is expected to look white, but barring that, is even encouraged to alter his or her appearance to fit more with the white ideal. No other minority group does this.
White men and Asian women aren’t friends to other minorities, no way, no how.
It’s not a coincidence that the White man and Asian woman pairing is the most common interracial pairing in the world – and might eventually outnumber White man / White woman couples.
It’s no coincidence that I am one of millions upon millions upon millions of Eurasians with white fathers and none from the other way around.
The reason for this?
It coincides with the rise of feminism, and the rise of higher standards among White women, whereas now – average white men like my father see and saw Asian women as being a proper substitute for white women. They get the “white skin,” and the sex and affection that white women don’t want to give average white men.
Asian women, to my father, were seen as being filial, family oriented, and traditional, and less promiscuous. My father is socially conservative, has nothing but vicious shit to say about current modern Western civilization, how the west has fallen.
In fact, it might not even seem this way to the white men, but as they are exposed to more and more Asian women, they just find Asian women easier to obtain than white women – for whatever goddamn reason. And, well, Asian women are the closet thing, “plus they don’t have the attitude.”
Also because of my father’s fear of black men and his countless comments about them, Asian women are well known for avoiding black men.
So essentially the Asian woman is “The White Man From the 1950’s” wet dream – literally.
I recall my grandmother said of my father: “your father doesn’t realize that the 50’s are never coming back.”
A good example of my father’s behavior: refusing to watch movies made after the 40’s, refusing to see any movie that features a single curse in it, refusing to read any and all books written after 1850 or so (the Flappers were too much for him, I guess), believing the Jews run Hollywood, etc., etc.
Now, for the Asian woman, in finding a white man she finds herself the ability to integrate into her new home – a land she finds superior to her old one. After all, Europe, in the Asian woman’s mind, is exactly what she sees in movies, on TV, and the European man is an image she can latch onto.
Rather than settling for an average Asian man, she can settle for an average white man, milk him for money, and enjoy a white lifestyle. She gets to say she has a white husband, and Hapa kids, but don’t get it twisted: she doesn’t love her husband, never loved him, and never will love him. If any white guy reads this just ask her if she would love you if you were Asian. Is that true love? Ich don’t think so.
(Some Asian women, for whatever reason, like my mother, are almost completely soulless. These white guys don’t seem to realize that if a woman is dating outside of her race exclusively she’s probably mentally deranged or completely amoral.)
A “white lifestyle” is essentially identical to the one that used to be occupied by the white soccer mom, who for some reason, in the minds of white men like my father (i.e., most white men), became unattainable or unmanageable back then.
Essentially the Asian woman gets to pair off with the white man – and they both get something out of it. The white man gets his “traditional” Asian wife (which essentially means less promiscuous, even though knowing my Asian American cousins this is far from the truth, but with my mother, she certainly was less promiscuous and didn’t have sex with my father at all).
The Asian woman gets her “white dream life”, whiter children, her fantasy of being white and supplanting the white woman at the white man’s side. It’s not about love at all. It’s about an image: the New American Gothic. They try to give off a vibe of being happy but they’re not. After marriage my mother just completely berated my father for failing to match up with what she expected – a European Prince.
These people are NOT – and I repeat – NOT FRIENDS to other minorities. They have nothing in common with other minorities.
WM/AW is pushed as progressive. IT IS NOT. My mother and father would fill my head with stories about black people saying that I should avoid them based on what kind of clothing they were wearing because this meant that… wait for it…. they were diseased.
Essentially WM/AW is the textbook 1950’s picket house fence marriage all over again.
Never, ever, ever, rely on a Hapa son of a White man and an Asian woman to be socially responsible, ever. As I said, I tried my damndest to be as white as possible when I was younger. I even considered dyeing my hair, I posted on extremely racist white websites, I made a black girl cry by dropping the word “nigga” to one of my white friends… but I’ll get into this later.